So before we find out what
Blaine really did with He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named, and now that I’ve sorta
made my peace with the hellish nightmare that was The Break Up, I though I should try to think logically about the whole cheating storyline.
I don’t condone cheating in any shape, way or form. It’s a deal breaker for me and I think the rift it causes in the relationship is practically impossible to repair. But somehow Glee managed to shed a new light on it and made me think about it in a different way. Not that I accept it now, but it made me realize that sometimes, it’s not all black and white. Maybe the reason is that unlike other shows, Glee is showing the point of view of the person who cheated, instead of the one who was cheated on.
In my opinion, Kurt and Blaine’s relationship is one of the healthiest relationships on the show. I know some Gleeks were unhappy because Kurt didn’t stand up for Blaine when Finn was harassing him and Blaine didn’t defend Kurt when Sebastian was insulting him, but I actually saw that as a sign of respect. They respect each other’s individuality and neither need the other to fight his battles for him. They talk before making decisions that affects them both ( in New York, Kurt told Rachel that he talked to Blaine about going to college in New York and Blaine was on board). They make sacrifices for each other, they support each other and most importantly, they communicate.
Klaine always face problems when they stop communicating. That’s the common factor in the two fights that involved cheating. And I think both of them were at fault both times.
Before you guys start swearing at me or stop reading altogether, just hear me out. I’m not trying to blame Blaine’s cheating on Kurt or dismiss the whole thing. I’m just trying to dig deep into the mindset of these two characters and the nature of their relationship because I’m frustrated with the way the show portrayed it.
Anyway, let’s start with Dance With Somebody. Blaine was the one who stopped communicating at first, bottling things up and hiding his feelings from Kurt. Then Kurt followed suit by letting his hurt get a hold of him and flirting with another guy. Sorry, Kurt, but this was NOT texting. That was cheating, plain and simple. Blaine actually got to the core of the problem when he said “talk to me”, that’s what got them into this mess in the first place. Once they started communicating again, they resolved everything. So basically, Blaine was the one who put them on that road on the first place but Kurt was the one who teetered on the edge of cheating. Both were to blame.
Now The Break Up, Blaine tried to reach out to Kurt, he took his own advice and tried to talk but for the first time, they were not in sync. Not only did Kurt fail to notice how much his absence was affecting Blaine, but he also dismissed him in the worst way possible. His actions during this call and the Skype date made it look like he didn’t care about what was going in Blaine’s life or how he was feeling. He was shutting Blaine out without noticing.
Blaine might come across as very confident but I believe he’s very insecure. Let’s review what we know about him, he’s a gay teenager living in Ohio, he was a victim of gay bashing, his family isn’t all that supportive, he is going to a school that he transferred to only for his boyfriend and the friends he made in his new school graduated along with his boyfriend.
Kurt, on the other hand, is going through a new experience. He’s in the city of his dreams, a place where he is accepted for who he is. He’s got an incredible job and he wants to prove himself. It’s completely understandable that he got swallowed in his new life. He needs time to process what’s going on and settle into his new life, especially considering the fact that the year before was really crappy.
Blaine was in the same place Kurt had been in Dance With Somebody, only difference is that Kurt wasn’t there which made things a thousand times worse. And so Blaine made the ultimate mistake and cheated.
I say that they’re both to blame because Kurt could’ve handled some things a little better. Like when he declined Blaine’s call in Makeover when there was nothing preventing him from answering. They were talking about movies for God’s sake, he could’ve excused himself for a minute to answer his boyfriend. Also, when your boyfriend is trying to tell you he’s suffering from you absence, your response should NOT be that some random woman is calling and she always has the best gossip.
But none of that justifies Blaine’s cheating, none of this excuses it. Ultimately, most of the blame rests on his shoulders. He made his bed and he deserves to suffer the consequences. I mean, he managed to get a plane ticket to see Kurt two weeks early, couldn’t he have done that BEFORE cheating?. The scene between him and Kurt in Glease broke my heart but I think it’s well deserved. He broke Kurt’s heart and betrayed his trust. Kurt deserves to have all the time he needs to heal. I don’t agree with his refusal to talk to Blaine but I understand it. He is angry and hurt and yet, he still loves Blaine. You can see how much just seeing Blaine affected him in the way he averted his eyes when they met backstage.
But try as I might, I can’t help but feel sorry for Blaine. He didn’t try to hide what he did and confessed to Kurt right away, he is remorseful and guilty and he keeps trying to make things right. He knows that he messed up and is not trying to deny it. He is heartbroken and pretty much lonely (the only one who tried to reach out for him was Sam and even he was quick to dismiss his suffering). He’s still fighting for Kurt and I don’t think he’ll stop anytime soon.
People make mistakes and it doesn’t matter how perfect Blaine seems because in the end, he’s still a teenager. He screwed up big time but I’d like to believe that this isn’t the end for them because they ARE soul mates. The great bond they share, the maturity both of them have shown as opposed to the childish behavior of some of the other couples on the show, their deep understanding of each other, everything in this relationship points to eternity. They just need time to heal, Blaine needs to find his own identity at Mckinley and Kurt needs to find a way to trust Blaine again. I firmly believe that they can patch things once Kurt cools off (Yes, I’m a hopeless Klainer, sue me)
I don’t condone cheating in any shape, way or form. It’s a deal breaker for me and I think the rift it causes in the relationship is practically impossible to repair. But somehow Glee managed to shed a new light on it and made me think about it in a different way. Not that I accept it now, but it made me realize that sometimes, it’s not all black and white. Maybe the reason is that unlike other shows, Glee is showing the point of view of the person who cheated, instead of the one who was cheated on.
In my opinion, Kurt and Blaine’s relationship is one of the healthiest relationships on the show. I know some Gleeks were unhappy because Kurt didn’t stand up for Blaine when Finn was harassing him and Blaine didn’t defend Kurt when Sebastian was insulting him, but I actually saw that as a sign of respect. They respect each other’s individuality and neither need the other to fight his battles for him. They talk before making decisions that affects them both ( in New York, Kurt told Rachel that he talked to Blaine about going to college in New York and Blaine was on board). They make sacrifices for each other, they support each other and most importantly, they communicate.
Klaine always face problems when they stop communicating. That’s the common factor in the two fights that involved cheating. And I think both of them were at fault both times.
Before you guys start swearing at me or stop reading altogether, just hear me out. I’m not trying to blame Blaine’s cheating on Kurt or dismiss the whole thing. I’m just trying to dig deep into the mindset of these two characters and the nature of their relationship because I’m frustrated with the way the show portrayed it.
Anyway, let’s start with Dance With Somebody. Blaine was the one who stopped communicating at first, bottling things up and hiding his feelings from Kurt. Then Kurt followed suit by letting his hurt get a hold of him and flirting with another guy. Sorry, Kurt, but this was NOT texting. That was cheating, plain and simple. Blaine actually got to the core of the problem when he said “talk to me”, that’s what got them into this mess in the first place. Once they started communicating again, they resolved everything. So basically, Blaine was the one who put them on that road on the first place but Kurt was the one who teetered on the edge of cheating. Both were to blame.
Now The Break Up, Blaine tried to reach out to Kurt, he took his own advice and tried to talk but for the first time, they were not in sync. Not only did Kurt fail to notice how much his absence was affecting Blaine, but he also dismissed him in the worst way possible. His actions during this call and the Skype date made it look like he didn’t care about what was going in Blaine’s life or how he was feeling. He was shutting Blaine out without noticing.
Blaine might come across as very confident but I believe he’s very insecure. Let’s review what we know about him, he’s a gay teenager living in Ohio, he was a victim of gay bashing, his family isn’t all that supportive, he is going to a school that he transferred to only for his boyfriend and the friends he made in his new school graduated along with his boyfriend.
Kurt, on the other hand, is going through a new experience. He’s in the city of his dreams, a place where he is accepted for who he is. He’s got an incredible job and he wants to prove himself. It’s completely understandable that he got swallowed in his new life. He needs time to process what’s going on and settle into his new life, especially considering the fact that the year before was really crappy.
Blaine was in the same place Kurt had been in Dance With Somebody, only difference is that Kurt wasn’t there which made things a thousand times worse. And so Blaine made the ultimate mistake and cheated.
I say that they’re both to blame because Kurt could’ve handled some things a little better. Like when he declined Blaine’s call in Makeover when there was nothing preventing him from answering. They were talking about movies for God’s sake, he could’ve excused himself for a minute to answer his boyfriend. Also, when your boyfriend is trying to tell you he’s suffering from you absence, your response should NOT be that some random woman is calling and she always has the best gossip.
But none of that justifies Blaine’s cheating, none of this excuses it. Ultimately, most of the blame rests on his shoulders. He made his bed and he deserves to suffer the consequences. I mean, he managed to get a plane ticket to see Kurt two weeks early, couldn’t he have done that BEFORE cheating?. The scene between him and Kurt in Glease broke my heart but I think it’s well deserved. He broke Kurt’s heart and betrayed his trust. Kurt deserves to have all the time he needs to heal. I don’t agree with his refusal to talk to Blaine but I understand it. He is angry and hurt and yet, he still loves Blaine. You can see how much just seeing Blaine affected him in the way he averted his eyes when they met backstage.
But try as I might, I can’t help but feel sorry for Blaine. He didn’t try to hide what he did and confessed to Kurt right away, he is remorseful and guilty and he keeps trying to make things right. He knows that he messed up and is not trying to deny it. He is heartbroken and pretty much lonely (the only one who tried to reach out for him was Sam and even he was quick to dismiss his suffering). He’s still fighting for Kurt and I don’t think he’ll stop anytime soon.
People make mistakes and it doesn’t matter how perfect Blaine seems because in the end, he’s still a teenager. He screwed up big time but I’d like to believe that this isn’t the end for them because they ARE soul mates. The great bond they share, the maturity both of them have shown as opposed to the childish behavior of some of the other couples on the show, their deep understanding of each other, everything in this relationship points to eternity. They just need time to heal, Blaine needs to find his own identity at Mckinley and Kurt needs to find a way to trust Blaine again. I firmly believe that they can patch things once Kurt cools off (Yes, I’m a hopeless Klainer, sue me)
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